If you need help, just ask: Underestimating compliance with direct requests for help

被引:156
作者
Flynn, Francis J. [1 ]
Lake, Vanessa K. B. [2 ]
机构
[1] Columbia Univ, Columbia Business Sch, New York, NY 10027 USA
[2] Columbia Univ, Dept Psychol, New York, NY 10027 USA
关键词
helping behavior; help seeking; compliance; interpersonal relations;
D O I
10.1037/0022-3514.95.1.128
中图分类号
B84 [心理学];
学科分类号
04 ; 0402 ;
摘要
A series of studies tested whether people underestimate the likelihood that others will comply with their direct requests for help. In the first 3 studies, people underestimated by as much as 50% the likelihood that others would agree to a direct request for help, across a range of requests occurring in both experimental and natural field settings. Studies 4 and 5 demonstrated that experimentally manipulating a person's perspective (as help seeker or potential helper) could elicit this underestimation effect. Finally, in Study 6, the authors explored the source of the bias, finding that help seekers were less willing than potential helpers were to appreciate the social costs of refusing a direct request for help (the costs of saying "no"), attending instead to the instrumental costs of helping (the costs of saying "yes").
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页码:128 / 143
页数:16
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